The Boyfriend List: 15 Guys, 11 Shrink Appointments, 4 Ceramic Frogs And Me, Ruby Oliver by E. LockhartThe Boyfriend List: 15 Guys, 11 Shrink Appointments, 4 Ceramic Frogs And Me, Ruby Oliver by E. Lockhart

The Boyfriend List: 15 Guys, 11 Shrink Appointments, 4 Ceramic Frogs And Me, Ruby Oliver

byE. Lockhart

Paperback | September 26, 2006

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From E. Lockhart, author of the highly acclaimed, New York Times bestseller We Were Liars, which John Green called "utterly unforgettable," comes The Boyfriend List, the first book in the uproarious and heartwarming Ruby Oliver novels.

Ruby Oliver is 15 and has a shrink. She knows it’s unusual, but give her a break—she’s had a rough 10 days. In the past 10 days she:
lost her boyfriend (#13 on the list),

lost her best friend (Kim),

lost all her other friends (Nora, Cricket),

did something suspicious with a boy (#10),

did something advanced with a boy (#15),

had an argument with a boy (#14),

drank her first beer (someone handed it to her),

got caught by her mom (ag!),

had a panic attack (scary),

lost a lacrosse game (she’s the goalie),

failed a math test (she’ll make it up),

hurt Meghan’s feelings (even though they aren’t really friends),

became a social outcast (no one to sit with at lunch)

and had graffiti written about her in the girls’ bathroom (who knows what was in the boys’!?!).

But don’t worry—Ruby lives to tell the tale. And make more lists.

From the Hardcover edition.
E. Lockhart is the author of the highly acclaimed New York Times bestseller We Were Liars and the Ruby Oliver quartet (The Boyfriend List, The Boy Book, The Treasure Map of Boys, and Real Live Boyfriends), as well as Fly on the Wall, Dramarama, and How to Be Bad (the last with Sarah Mlynowski and Lauren Myracle). Her novel The Disreput...
Title:The Boyfriend List: 15 Guys, 11 Shrink Appointments, 4 Ceramic Frogs And Me, Ruby OliverFormat:PaperbackDimensions:256 pages, 8 × 5.19 × 0.5 inPublished:September 26, 2006Publisher:Random House Children's BooksLanguage:English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10:0385732074

ISBN - 13:9780385732079

Appropriate for ages: 13 - 17


Rated 3 out of 5 by from The Boyfriend List: 15 Guys, 11 Shrink Appointments, 4 Ceramic Frogs and Me, Ruby Oliver (Ruby Oliver #1) by E. Lockhart I can not praise Lockhart’s writing style enough – it is funny and clever. I like how the author deciphers relationships through Ruby's experiences. I love that the underlying message of this book is for girls not to become complacent and emotionally dependent on boys, that dating a popular guy is not the most important thing in the world. It is a sad thing to say, but I feel like many grown women need to read this novel, just to get a better understanding of their dating patterns and mistakes. Many still have no idea how to get what they want out of their relationships with men. This book is better than any relationship self-help book out there.
Date published: 2018-06-21
Rated 5 out of 5 by from ruby is QUEEN i wish i had read this in high school because it would have been so beneficial for me. either way i LOVED this book and ruby's voice is so entertaining, i could read about her life aaaaaaalll day. also um, jackson can leave thanks.
Date published: 2018-04-22
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Something new I enjoyed this book a lot. I went into it thinking that it would be a nice way to spend an afternoon because I am older than the target audience of this book. However, I was surprised by how quickly I became attached to the protagonist and the curiousity of seeing how it all would end made me read that much faster.
Date published: 2017-05-14
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Well-written, funny, witty I'm a fan of all of E. Lockhart's novels and that love started with The Boyfriend List. I read this book as a teenager and years later, I still read it from time to time. Well-written, funny, and witty, Lockhart's novel encapsulates what it's like to be a boy-crazy teenager with raging hormones.
Date published: 2017-02-07
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Love it I love all of E Lockhart's books and this one doesn't disappoint. I think anyone who's been a teenage girl can relate to some of the problems Ruby Faces #Plumreview
Date published: 2016-12-09
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Can't wait to read the next one!! This book was a lot of fun. Ruby has had a bad week - broke up with her boyfriend, lost her best friend, become a social leper at school and started having panic attacks. Her parents send who to a therapist but they don't seem to be able to talk. So the therapist has her write a boyfriend list and they start talking about the boys. A lot of boys in this book! It was fun, and a little sad, and full of high school drama. There are hilarious laugh out loud moments (mostly in the footnotes) and I can't wait to read the next one!!!
Date published: 2008-01-22
Rated 1 out of 5 by from HATE IT It was boring, confussing and EXTREMELY uneventful. you could barely tell what was going on and what was happening. all i managed to get was that she was mad at her best friend for some sort of face-painting thing it was soooooo DULL
Date published: 2007-03-04

Read from the Book

1. Adam (but he doesn't count.)Adam was this boy that I used to stare at in preschool. His hair was too long, that's why. It stuck out behind his ears and trailed down his neck, whereas all the other five-year-old boys had bowl haircuts. I didn't have too much hair myself--it didn't grow fast and my mom was always trimming it with her nail scissors--so I was a little obsessed with hair.Adam's last name was Cox, and after I had been eyeing him for a couple of months, I named this stuffed bunny I had after him. All the grown-ups laughed when I said the bunny's name was Cox, and I didn't understand why.Pretty soon, Adam and I were playing together. Our parents took us to the zoo, and we'd spend time after school in the nearby playground, drawing with chalk and walking up the slide. I remember we went swimming a few times at the YMCA, and hung out in a plastic wading pool in his backyard. His cat had kittens, and I got to help name them because I came over the same morning they were born.And that was it.We were only five years old.When I was old enough for kindergarten, I started at Tate Prep and he went somewhere else.Doctor Z looked down at the Boyfriend List. She didn't seem too impressed with my Adam Cox story. Or maybe it was the list itself she didn't think much of--though it had taken me a lot of work to do. I started the night after our first appointment, in bed in my pajamas, writing on this thick, cream-colored stationery my grandma Suzette got me. It says Ruby Denise Oliver on the top in this great curlicue font--but I never use it, since anyone I'd want to write to has e-mail.My first draft, I only wrote down Jackson and Cabbie. Then I added Gideon at the beginning, with a question mark next to his name. Then Michael, the guy who was my first kiss--putting him in between Gideon and Jackson.Then I turned off my light and tried to go to sleep.No luck.Well, I wasn't sleeping well lately anyway--but I lay there with this feeling that the list wasn't finished. I remembered that I'd told Doctor Z about Angelo already, so I turned the light back on and squeezed him in between Jackson and Cabbie.Oh, and I had mentioned Noel to Doctor Z, too--though we were only friends. I stuck him in right after Jackson, just to have somewhere to put him. Then I rewrote the list in nice handwriting and managed to get myself to sleep--but in the middle of the night I woke up and wrote down two more boys and my History & Politics teacher.Then I crossed them all out.At breakfast the next morning, I jumped up from my cereal bowl and put one of them back on.At school, the hallway by the mail cubbies suddenly seemed like an obstacle course of old crushes and rejections. Shiv Neel. Finn Murphy. Hutch (ag). All three in my face before I even got to my first class. I pulled out the list and wrote them down.All day long, I thought about boys. (Well, even more than usual.) And the more I thought, the more I remembered.Adam, the mermaid.Sky, the jerk.Ben, the golden boy.Tommy, who surfed.Chase, who gave me the necklace.Billy, who squeezed my boob.Never in a million years would I have expected the list to be anywhere near so long. But by the end of the day, there were fifteen names on there, and the list was all scribbly-looking, with arrows zooming around to show what order the boys should really go in.It was a mess, so during geometry I recopied it on the stationery in my best writing and threw the old one away.2 Then I tucked it into a matching envelope to give to Doctor Z."Why did you stop playing with Adam?" Doctor Z wanted to know."I told you, I started a different school.""Is there something more?" she said, looking at me over those red-rimmed glasses."No."I had liked making the list, it was kind of fun. But ag. What was the point of talking about something from ten years ago that wasn't even important? Zoo trips with Adam Cox and his mom weren't exactly significant to my mental development.Not that there was anything else I wanted to talk about.I just wanted the panic attacks to stop.And the hollow, sore feeling in my chest to go away.And to feel like I could make it through lunch period without choking back tears.And Jackson. I wanted Jackson back.And my friends."Did you ever see him again?""Who?" I had forgotten what we were talking about.From the Hardcover edition.

Bookclub Guide

1. After the Adam "debacle" in chapter one, Roo and Kim begin a notebook called The Boy Book in which they write down everything they know about boys. Have you ever started a book like this on your own or with your friends? Do you think it would be useful? What information would you include?2. On page 41, Ruby spills her guts to Kim about Finn. Is this smart? Are there circumstances in which it’s better to keep your mouth shut? Has something like this ever happened to you–you tried to do the right thing and it backfired?3. Ruby gives three examples of the way love works in the movies. In her example on page 64, the couples hate each other half the time but still get together in the end. In her example on page 65, the couple breaks up, but then the man realizes that he loves the woman and can’t exist without her, and they get back together and live happily ever after. And on page 198, the hopeless dorky guy who’s been there all along eventually gets the girl. Do you agree with Ruby that these happy endings don’t happen in real life? Pick one of the movies mentioned and discuss it. Does the romantic situation in the movie ring true? Can you think of other movies, books, or television shows that would fit on Ruby’s lists?4. Ruby discovers that dating Jackson isn’t the way she thought dating was supposed to be. Have you ever discovered that your ideas about something were wrong? How was the reality different from what you had imagined?5. In chapter six, Kim and Ruby invent the perfect boyfriend and name him Tommy Hazard. Do you have your own Tommy Hazard? Are there hazards in creating a "perfect" boyfriend?6. After stealing Jackson, Kim tells Ruby, "When you find your Tommy Hazard you’ll understand. I honestly couldn’t help it." Doyou agree with Kim’s justification of her behavior? Does she dothe right thing?7. Even though Noel has become Roo’s only ally, she turns on him on page 176 after he says, ". . . if those are your friends you’ve got no need for enemies." Why does this upset Ruby so much? Do you think Noel is right? Why is Ruby not yet ready to give up her old life, even though it has become the source of such pain?8. When Kim calls Ruby a slut in class, Mr. Wallace gives a lecture on the negative effects of labels and points out that "there are no equivalent epithets for men whatsoever, and didn’t that say something about how women are viewed in our culture?" (page 177). What does it say? Can you give examples of the negative effects of labels, from real life or from movies, music, television shows, or books?9. Ruby ends the book by saying, "I was out of the Tate universe, standing on the edge of the sea" (page 229). What does she mean by this? Is she really out of the Tate universe? Is this a satisfying ending? Do you believe that Ruby is in a better place now than when the book began? What do you think is next for her?

Editorial Reviews

Praise for the boyfriend list:   * “Spot-on dialogue and details make this a painfully recognizable and addictive read.”—Publishers Weekly, Starred   “Lockhart shines at depicting the all-encompassing microcosm of school social life.”—Kirkus Reviews   “Lockhart has created a fun character in the spirit of Louise Rennison’s Georgia Nicholson and Helen Fielding’s Bridget Jones….The snappy dialogue makes this story a winner.”—School Library Journal   “An ingenious way to look at one teenager’s life….The book is spectacular, with a well-constructed story and deep, emotional significance.”—The Romantic Times   “Breezy and genuine, with a tender understanding of who really walks the halls in America’s high schools. The Boyfriend List made me laugh and, yeah, I was kind of attracted to Kim.”—Ned Vizzini, author of It’s Kind of a Funny Story   “The Boyfriend List is a wonderful comic exploration of the maddening (but hilarious) world of mothers and fathers, the gut-wrenching politics (and excitement) of multiple crushes, and the complications (and kinship) of friendship. Ruby Oliver is a winning girl (even if she doesn’t realize it) we’d all befriend in a heartbeat (as long as she doesn’t have her eyes on our guy).”—Jill A. Davis, author of Girls’ Poker Night   “Ruby Oliver’s list of boyfriends is a wonderful and tragic document of our times. I felt kind of bad for some of the guys on the list, but at the same time, while I read, I kept wishing I was on it.”—J. Minter, author of the Insiders seriesAn ALA Best Book for Young AdultsFrom the Hardcover edition.