The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--and How To Make The Most Of Them Now by Meg JayThe Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--and How To Make The Most Of Them Now by Meg Jay

The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--and How To Make The Most Of Them Now

byMeg Jay

Paperback | April 2, 2013

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Our "thirty-is-the-new-twenty" culture tells us the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are a second adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. Dr. Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist, argues that twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation, much of which has trivialized what is actually the most defining decade of adulthood.

Drawing from a decade of work with hundreds of twentysomething clients and students, THE DEFINING DECADE weaves the latest science of the twentysomething years with behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. The result is a provocative read that provides the tools necessary to make the most of your twenties, and shows us how work, relationships, personality, social networks, identity, and even the brain can change more during this decade than at any other time in adulthood-if we use the time wisely.

THE DEFINING DECADE is a smart, compassionate and constructive book about the years we cannot afford to miss.
Meg Jay, PhD, is a clinical psychologist who specializes in adult development, and twentysomethings in particular. She is an assistant clinical professor at University of Virginia, and maintains a private practice in Charlottesville, Virginia. Dr. Jay earned a doctorate in clinical psychology, and in gender studies, from University of ...
Title:The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--and How To Make The Most Of Them NowFormat:PaperbackDimensions:272 pages, 8.25 × 5.5 × 0.75 inPublished:April 2, 2013Publisher:Grand Central PublishingLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:0446561754

ISBN - 13:9780446561754


Rated 5 out of 5 by from The Wake-Up Call I Didn’t Know That I Needed Advice and suggestions about making the most of one’s twenties are shared through stories and examples from Jay’s professional practice. I think that it would be best to read this book annually to keep myself motivated to continue to work towards my dreams and goals.
Date published: 2018-11-07
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Not just for the young, applicable to all ages! A wonderful, encouraging book that reminds us that we have just ONE life. Be brave, Be bold! Includes a diverse mix of examples and scenarios that are interesting to read and learn from. Best quote of all: Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creature of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary. Sir Cecil Beaton
Date published: 2018-02-25
Rated 4 out of 5 by from very relevant This was a surprisingly good book. It makes you think about what you're doing and what you might regret in the future. A lot of people in their 20s myself included feel like they still have a lot of time. But really your twenties are not longer than your thirties and the more time you waste now the closer you will be to your thirties questioning why you didn't take your twenties more seriously. Anyways, read this book and it just might inspire you or reaffirm that you're on the right track depending on where you are in your life.
Date published: 2018-01-23
Rated 5 out of 5 by from So relevant for twentysomethings everywhere! As I am in the final year of my nursing degree, this book was SO relevant for me! It encourages twentysomethings to get up and just do it. So many people in our generation just waste their time because we're told "you have all the time in the world", "you're still so young", but Meg Jay really puts the twenties into context and explains how YOU define the rest of your life! An excellent gift for the twenty year old bookworms in your life - also great for parents with twentysomethings to read!
Date published: 2017-12-04
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Excellent read I love this book. As a 21-year old undergraduate studying in Human Resource Management, I felt that the book gave great insight, especially in the career section. Highly recommend this book to anyone in their 20s!
Date published: 2017-11-22
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Meg Jay - the defining decade This is an amazing book and should be a must read for anyone. So important for early twenties to read or those beginning university/college/trades. Still useful for those at the end of their twenties, who are still missing jobs and purpose. Great, fun, easy, educational read.
Date published: 2017-11-12
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Great for the Recent Grad! Definitely, I wish had read this book once I graduated from University. A great book that showcases different perspectives from twenty-somethings.
Date published: 2017-10-03
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A MUST! This is an absolute GREAT book and should be required reading!!! It is even useful for ages up to 30, or those not yet settled in a career - for those that feel listless and drifting through life.
Date published: 2017-05-03
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Fresh Air A quick read and a handy manual for taking steps to live a life more in tune with your values and aspirations. Not everyone has to live a life of radical nonconformity but if 9 - 5 corporate drudgery is getting you down, this book offers emotional support and inspiration.
Date published: 2017-02-15
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Anything is possible While this book doesn't get into details like the "4hr Work Week", but it will begin spinning the gears in your head to what is possible. This will make you take a deeper look at what you're doing
Date published: 2017-01-11
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Inspiration This is a book about the choices we make and the lives we live as a result. I used to always make the safe choice but now sometimes, I dig deep and find the courage to take the road less traveled. There isn't just one way to do things and just because everyone else thinks you're crazy doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. I've had some great unconventional experiences since I first read this book and I return to it regularly for inspiration.
Date published: 2016-11-15
Rated 5 out of 5 by from An essential read... no joke. This is my first review on indigo, and for good reason. This book blew me away. I had watched Meg Jays TED talk on her book and it brought me to tears as she recounted the story about the young woman who couldn't think of someone to put in the "emergency contact" box. Ultimately this book is for those who are college graduates who feel lost and confused about the purpose of their twenties. I am not a college graduate, but I do work full time as a graphic designer and a part time photographer... and it still applied to be in every aspect. Read this book if you feel lost. It not only makes you realize that you aren't alone in your feelings... but that there is hope, and all you need is a little push and a little perspective
Date published: 2016-05-11
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Great read Recommended to me by a twentysomething friend who loved it. Really great points about work, love, and the brain. Definitely recommend it to twentysomethings everywhere!
Date published: 2014-03-25
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A wake up call I attended Chris's book signing and it served me in 3 ways: 1. he put words around the reality of living my own journey -how refreshing! 2. he woke me up to the fact that it following my dream is practical and doable -it's not some type of fantasy land that's out of reach for me. 3. Go with my gut -I tend to overanalyze and stop an idea short of completion.
Date published: 2011-01-29
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A Great Read! Being a life long confirmed non-conformist and an Aquarian contrarian, I absolutely love Chris Guillebeau's ability to live the life he wants and let others in on it. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is ready to think differently and live the life you want.
Date published: 2010-12-11

Editorial Reviews

"Listen to me closely. If you know someone already in or entering the third decade of life, or their parents, or their therapist, you must give them this book. Meg Jay slams a cultural corrective on our desk. Pay attention. The twenties are the defining decade of human life where the foundation of every future is laid...No one should turn thirty without having read this book."-J. Anderson Thomson Jr., MD; staff psychiatrist, University of Virginia, department of Student Health; co-author, Facing Bipolar: The Young Adult's Guide to Facing Bipolar Disorder