The Dolphin Way: A Parent's Guide To Raising Healthy, Happy And Motivated Kids, Without Turning by Shimi K KangThe Dolphin Way: A Parent's Guide To Raising Healthy, Happy And Motivated Kids, Without Turning by Shimi K Kang

The Dolphin Way: A Parent's Guide To Raising Healthy, Happy And Motivated Kids, Without Turning

byShimi K Kang

Hardcover | April 15, 2014

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In this inspiring book, Harvard-trained child and adult psychiatrist and expert in human motivation Dr. Shimi Kang provides a guide to the art and science of inspiring children to develop their own internal drive and a lifelong love of learning. Drawing on the latest neuroscience and behavioral research, Dr. Kang shows why pushy “tiger parents” and permissive “jellyfish parents” actually hinder self-motivation. She proposes a powerful new parenting model: the intelligent, joyful, playful, highly social dolphin. Dolphin parents focus on maintaining balance in their children’s lives to gently yet authoritatively guide them toward lasting health, happiness, and success. 

As the medical director for Child and Youth Mental Health community programs in Vancouver, Dr. Kang has witnessed firsthand the consequences of parental pressure: anxiety disorders, high stress levels, suicides, and addictions. As the mother of three children and as the daughter of immigrant parents who struggled to give their children the “best” in life—her mother could not read and her father taught her math while they drove around in his taxi—Dr. Kang argues that often the simplest “benefits” we give our children are the most valuable. By trusting our deepest intuitions about what is best for our kids, we will in turn allow them to develop key dolphin traits to enable them to thrive in an increasingly complex world: adaptability, community-mindedness, creativity, and critical thinking.

Life is a journey through ever-changing waters, and dolphin parents know that the most valuable help we can give our children is to assist them in developing their own inner compass. Combining irrefutable science with unforgettable real-life stories, The Dolphin Way walks readers through Dr. Kang’s four-part method for cultivating self-motivation. The book makes a powerful case that we are not forced to choose between being permissive or controlling. The third option—the option that will prepare our kids for success in a future that will require adaptability—is the dolphin way.

 Shimi K. Kang, M.D., is the medical director for Child and Youth Mental Health for Vancouver and a clinical associate professor at the University of British Columbia. Dr. Kang has helped hundreds of children, adolescents, and their parents move toward positive behaviors and better mental health.
Title:The Dolphin Way: A Parent's Guide To Raising Healthy, Happy And Motivated Kids, Without TurningFormat:HardcoverDimensions:352 pages, 9.32 × 6.32 × 1.13 inPublished:April 15, 2014Publisher:Penguin CanadaLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:0670067563

ISBN - 13:9780670067565

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from Opportunity to try something else I actually sent this to my daughter-in-law with the premise that if she would like to read this it may give her some other ideas as to what to try. My grandson is 2 and he is really testing the waters, so to speak. My daughter-in-law is enjoying the book and is trying to implement the recommendation. I heard a brief interview about this book on CBC 99.1 radio. It sounded intriguing. It never hurts to try new things and continue to learn.
Date published: 2015-05-25
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Fantastic! Not only does this book have great insight into how to help me guide my children to their best, but I find a lot of the information applies to my own personal relationships and work environment. It has helped me really bring my own life into balance and enrich many of my personal relationships. Overall the mix of science and the amazing personal story of the author really keeps the book engaging and interesting Have recommended to all my friends and will recommend to you now!
Date published: 2014-07-15
Rated 5 out of 5 by from parenting is hard this book has helpful advice FOR ALL US PARENTS NOW DAYS TIMES HAVE CHANGED SO MUCH THIS BOOK SURE HELPS.We have a child with sensory issues this book just helps to let us know know matter what we deal with sometimes some outside suggestions can ease the way
Date published: 2014-06-30
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Great Parenting Book I came across The Dolphin Way during its book launch at Kids Books in Vancouver recently and was surprised to meet the author. She was so kind and genuine with her kids playing nearby, so I decided to buy a copy although I'm a single lady. It was a great and insightful read and touches upon many interesting trains of thought, so I've since given a few copies to married friends with kids. Interestingly, all of them have raved about the book and remarked that it has compelled them to re-evaluate their own parenting strategies and practices with renewed vigour and consideration. It has been the best gift to my friends.
Date published: 2014-05-21
Rated 5 out of 5 by from The Dolphin Way I have been teaching for over 25 years and have had the pleasure of being a mentor to students and helping them achieve their goals. I have read Dr. Kang's book "The Dolphin Way" and this book has inspired me with strategies on how to guide kids to learn internal motivation and be happy and successful. A superb book that includes Dr. Kang's professional expertise and experiences and how the reader can apply these strategies to help the next generation learn skills that will be needed in the future. A powerful book on how we can guide kids to lead a balanced life and be happy! It has provided me a tool for life long learning! Thank you Dr. Kang for writing a book that is practical and thought provoking!
Date published: 2014-05-10
Rated 4 out of 5 by from The Dolphin Way opened my eyes!!! The book The Dolphin Way proposes an alternative parenting style to the “Tiger Mom”. Dr. Kang proposes that the animal, which best represents the ideals parents should hope for in their children- Creativity, Critical Thinking, Communication and Collaboration, is the Dolphin. She posits that these skills will set children up for success and balance in their lives. She believes that “Tiger Parents” and their dictatorial parenting style is actually detrimental to the child as they are often rigid, uncreative and EXHAUSTED. They have no balance in their lives, their mental and physical health have been compromised and they fail to thrive because they have no ability to rebound from setbacks. Dr Kang stresses that thinking and resilience are the most important skills that children need – “millennials” show a sense of entitlement that can cause trouble in the workplace as they lack innovation and social skills. Children need to be able to think on their feet and have a healthy relationship with the world around them- this creates empathy and the ability to meet challenges head on. This book really opened my eyes to the idea that balance in parenting is as important as balance in life. Dr Kang uses evidence based research to make her points about the importance of being an authoritative parent. Much of the advise that she imparts seems like common sense, but I had so many moments where I began to nod my head SUPER vigorously. My only real issue with this book is also one of the best things about it, if you can wrap your head around that. Dr Kang’s theory is supported by a lot of research and evidence, which is incredibly reassuring but also makes the book a little bit repetitive at times.
Date published: 2014-04-15

Editorial Reviews

"With insight, professional expertise and unfailing instinct, Dr. Shimi Kang offers us essential guidance in restoring sanity to 21st Century parenting. Compassionate to parent and child, loving and reasoned in its approach, The Dolphin Way is highly readable, emotionally nurturing and intellectually satisfying." - Gabor Maté M.D."This is a powerful book that not only reminds us of what it means to live a balanced human life, but also how to achieve it--simply and naturally. The Dolphin Way guides us towards balance in an often imbalanced world." - David Suzuki“Ready to give your kids back their childhood—the part YOU loved? The joy? The creativity? The afternoons you still remember with such longing? If you’re driving your kid to the lessons neither of you likes, instead of giving yourselves BOTH a chance to relax, play or just ‘waste’ time, it's time to turn around the car. This book is your U-turn to joy.” - Lenore Skenazy, author of the book and founder of the blog Free-Range Kids“In The Dolphin Way, Dr. Shimi Kang writes insightfully of the real lives of parents, weaving science with spirit, and embedding highly practical suggestions into every chapter. I highly recommend this book!” - Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys and The Wonder of Girls“The Dolphin Way is a beautifully written guide that will help parents counteract the social forces that have been depriving children ever more of freedom, play, and childhood itself. It is full of compelling case histories and common-sense prescriptions for parenting in today’s world. Although Dr. Kang and I don’t agree on everything, we agree on most of what is in this book.” - Peter Gray, research professor of psychology, Boston College, and author of Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant, and Better Students for Life"If you're looking for effective but practical strategies to calm the chaos in your kids' lives, foster their their internal motivation and truly prepare them to function successfully in the adult work - read this book! Using concrete evidence, Dr. Kang shows why “Tiger” approaches to parenting do more harm than good. Her Dolphin approach will have you and your kids cheering. Highly recommended!" - Amy McCready, Founder of and author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time...The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding or Yelling