The Girl Who Said Sorry by Hayoung YimThe Girl Who Said Sorry by Hayoung Yim

The Girl Who Said Sorry

byHayoung YimIllustratorMarta Maszkiewicz

Paperback | October 5, 2017

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Too girly or too boyish. Too thin or too fat. Too quiet, too loud. Be ambitious, but don’t hurt feelings. Be inquisitive, but don’t interrupt. Be outspoken, but don’t be bossy. Most of all, be yourself—but be a lady.

What’s a girl to do in a world filled with contradicting gender expectations, aside from saying sorry?

The way we teach politeness norms to children is often confusing, changing based on gender—and can have lasting effects. And while everyone should be courteous and accountable for their actions, apologetic language out of context can undermine confidence and perceived capability.

Within the subtle yet beautiful illustrations and powerful rhyme of “The Girl Who Said Sorry”, developing girls will learn that self-expression and personal choices can be made without apology, and with confidence.

50% of profits from this book is donated to Girl Up, a United Nations Foundation campaign dedicated to empowering young girls to take action on global issues.

Title:The Girl Who Said SorryFormat:PaperbackDimensions:34 pages, 8 × 8 × 0.09 inPublished:October 5, 2017Publisher:Terra Hayoung YimLanguage:English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10:0993717489

ISBN - 13:9780993717482


Rated 5 out of 5 by from Girl power unleashed! This book is all about teaching young girls how to express themselves with confidence and - without apologizing. This important relevant subject is introduced in approachable rhyme. The illustrations are subtle yet so powerful to the reader. The incessant suggestions to change and try to please everyone are drilled over and over again until the little girl in the book can take it no longer. She is told she is too girlish, then too boyish. She is diagnosed as being too thin then reprimanded when she eats a cookie. She is supposed to excel at winning but not make others feel inadequate. She is told to speak her mind but not be bossy... the swirl of criticism and being told what she is to think and do constantly finally is too much for her to bear. She hits her melting point when after saying sorry to all the things she is accused of she hears herself saying sorry for saying she is sorry. That's enough!!!! Girl power rises and she takes a stand. She makes a decision right then and there... "If something is my fault If it was within my power, I will own up to my mistakes Without ever being sour. But for my words and choices That don't hurt anybody else, I will not say "Sorry"- They're expressions of myself." She bravely puts aside all the gender expectations and evolves into 'herself' without apology! She frees herself to express her thoughts and actions and make her own personal choices without having to say sorry. This is a wonderful book that encourages girls to think for themselves and to celebrate their individual uniqueness. 50% of the book's profits will be donated to "Girl Up" a United Nations Foundation campaign dedicated to empowering young girls to take action on global issues. I highly recommend this book.
Date published: 2017-10-05

Editorial Reviews

'Girls get often mixed messages from well-meaning parents, friends, teachers, and the media. [The Girl Who Said Sorry] encourages girls to think on their own and accept their uniqueness. It's a refreshing book with captivating illustrations.'—Cynthia Chin-Lee, author of Operation Marriage'It’s so important to have these conversations early on with kids of all genders, so that it is part of their consciousness from the get-go. But [The Girl Who Said Sorry] is also a clever story, leading up to that perfect “a-ha!” moment—which just makes it that much more of a gem.'—Innosanto Nagara, author of “A is for Activist”‘What a terrific message... [The Girl Who Said Sorry] definitely addresses an outdated way of treating girls that is hopefully on the way out.’—Laurie Wright, author of I Can Handle It