The Pater: My Father, My Judaism, My Childlessness by Jager, Elliot

The Pater: My Father, My Judaism, My Childlessness

byJager, Elliot

Kobo ebook | March 14, 2016

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Elliot Jager was eight when his father walked out on him and his mother. Decades later, struggling to reconcile with his now elderly Pater, he discovers he can never be a father himself. Feeling doubly betrayed, by the earthly father who abandoned him and the one in Heaven who denies him, Jager sets out to discover the meaning of life without children. 
Talking to other men – single and married, gay and straight – who share his plight, he explores the stigmas of the Jewish community towards the childless, the sense of helplessness and failure that comes with infertility, and the existential battle to fill the void. Brave, poignant, and uncompromisingly honest, The Pater tells the hitherto untold story of the childless Jewish man.

Title:The Pater: My Father, My Judaism, My ChildlessnessFormat:Kobo ebookPublished:March 14, 2016Publisher:The Toby Press, LLCLanguage:English

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Rated 4 out of 5 by from Very interesting I really like this book. It's well laid out and the writing is conversational & informative. It's like reading a letter from a friend. There's a lot of interesting detail on the aspects of Judaism relating to childlessness. But beyond that, Elliot's thoughts and ponderings about childlessness are universal. What this book gave to ponder was the overwhelming affect WWII had on some people's decisions not to have children. It's subtle. Everyone who experienced the war first hand was changed. This change is felt in the current generation ofoffspring of those who lived through the war. Subtly but there.
Date published: 2017-11-24