The Power of the Other by Henry CloudThe Power of the Other by Henry Cloud

The Power of the Other

byHenry Cloud

Paperback | May 3, 2016

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A bestselling author and expert on the psychology of leadership identifies the critical ingredient for personal and professional well-being.

Most leadership coaching focuses on helping leaders build their skills and knowledge and close performance gaps. These are necessary steps, but not sufficient. Using evidence from neuroscience and his work with leaders, Dr. Henry Cloud shows that the best performers draw on another vital resource: personal and professional relationships that fuel growth and help them surpass current limits.

Popular wisdom suggests that we should not allow others to have power over us, but the reality is that they do, for better or for worse. Consider the boss who diminishes you through cutting remarks versus one who challenges you to get better. Or the colleague who always seeks the limelight versus the one who gives you the confidence to finish a difficult project. Or the spouse who is honest and supportive versus the one who resents your success. No matter how talented, intelligent, or experienced, the greatest leaders share one commonality: the power of the others in their lives.

Combining engaging case studies, persuasive findings from cutting-edge brain research, and examples from his consulting practice, Dr. Cloud argues that whether you’re a Navy SEAL or a corporate executive, outstanding performance depends on having the right kind of interpersonal connections to fuel personal growth and minimize toxic associations and their effects. Presenting a dynamic model of the impact these different kinds of connections produce, Dr. Cloud shows readers how to get more from themselves by drawing on the strength and expertise of others. You don’t have a choice whether others have power in your life, but you can choose what kinds of relationships you want.

Advance Praise for The Power of the Other

“Henry Cloud has done it again! The Power of the Other reminds us that our successes and failures often come through others. Those who have high relational IQs are always the most successful, and Henry reminds us to surround ourselves with the right people if we want positive results.”—Dave Ramsey, author of six national bestsellers

“Henry Cloud understands the connections among character, relationships, and leadership like no one else I’ve ever known. Really. His writings are as wise and insightful as they are readable, and The Power of the Other is another wonderful example.”—Patrick Lencioni, bestselling author of The Five Dysfunctions of a Team

“Henry’s deep understanding of people, growth, and performance is unique and impactful. This new book brings to light the power of connection and the primacy of relationships, in personal and professional development. For everyone who wants to thrive in all parts of life, this book is a must.”—Scott Beck, founder of

“Once again, Henry has changed the conversation. Raw talent and willpower go a long way. Yet without healthy relationships, we leave most of their value on the table. But this isn’t a book just about relationships—it shows how to knock down a leader’s performance barriers. Henry’s use of neuroscience makes his logic and storytelling even more compelling.”—Marten Hoekstra, former CEO of UBS

“Dr. Cloud’s latest book brings the heart and the mind together, showing that constructive relationships support us in making our own lives and the lives of others better. There is no singular success; we all need to work with ‘others’ to become our best selves. The Power of the Other shows you where to look.”—Maria Shriver, journalist, founder of Shriver Media, the Women’s Alzheimer’s Challenge, and A Woman’s Nation

Cofounder of Cloud/Townsend Communications, Henry Cloud is a popular speaker and licensed psychologist. Cloud graduated with a doctorate in clinical psychology from Rosemead Graduate School of Psychology and maintains a private practice in Newport Beach, California. Also a cohost of the nationally broadcast "Minirth Meier New Life Clin...
Title:The Power of the OtherFormat:PaperbackDimensions:256 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.64 inPublished:May 3, 2016Publisher:HarperCollinsLanguage:English

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from Powerful & Insighful! Dr. Henry Cloud begins his new book 'The Power of the Other' with a powerful account that immediately drew me in. A man is training to become a Navy SEAL is on his last test--a grueling endurance swim in the ocean...and his strength fails him. He has nothing left and is just about to signal he is giving up...all his years of training, the sacrifice, his dream of being a SEAL has disappeared. Suddenly he sees his friend standing on the shore ahead. His friend has completed the swim and is officially a Navy SEAL. The man on the shore yells and pumps his fist to let the man in the water know "he could do it". The man in the water would later describe what happened saying that as their "eyes locked...something happened. Something beyond him. His body jumped into another gear, into another dimension of performance that he had not had access to before". He was able to finish and became a Navy SEAL. This is what Dr. Cloud call "the Power of the Other". This book resonates deep in me both in positive and negative ways. The negative is not for any of the content, but because through my family of origin I experienced the negative power of the capital "O" Other. As someone who also has given "the Other" much power in my life, I see how I was "either diminished or improved by the other people in my scenario". Dr. Cloud relates several of his own life experiences with failures and how the situations played out based on the people he was connected to. I have never highlighted a book the way I have this one--even a whole chapter! Dr. Cloud shares one of his favourite formulas " Freedom = Responsibility = Love " in a moving account of a heartfelt formal talk he had with his two daughters as they became teenagers. I will be sharing this with my adult daughter for down the road when my grandson reaches this age. Self-control and personal responsibility are discussed and his fatherly goal is that his daughters know his loving lessons and messages so well that they are internalized thus governing behaviour and choices when they are on their own without him. It is truly wisdom. It is clear that no personal growth or change can happen in a vacuum or isolation. Relationship, genuine authentic relationship is where we grow and transform. "True connection always means being emotionally and functionally invested in other people, in a give-and-receive dynamic. Disconnection lacks something, in one direction or the other--either in the giving or the receiving. Truly connected people do both. They are emotionally present and able to give and to receive". The Power of the Other is a book that would benefit any reader. The idea that another person has a real impact on us, on our behaviour is profound and revolutionary in its simplicity. Dr. Cloud's research and how he explains the neuroscience is helpful and clear. I am recommending this book to everyone I know. My adult children, friends, work colleagues and church friends. I have read and studied much of Dr. Cloud's other books and materials and they have transformed my life. Most influential was his book with Dr. John Townsend "Boundaries" -- I keep several copies to give away as my life has not been the same since I read it and saw the video series. I can already see that I will have extra copies of "The Power of the Other" on my shelf to gift to others as well. Advance copy for review courtesy of Edelweiss Book Distributors.
Date published: 2016-05-04

Editorial Reviews

“Henry brings the heart and the mind together, showing that constructive relationships support us in making our own lives and the lives of others better. There is no singular success; we all need to work with ‘others’ to become our best selves. This book shows you where to look.”