The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost…

Paperback | March 15, 2000

byJohn Gottman

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John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life''s work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

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A best-seller, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is a New Age solution to an age-old problem: how to keep communication, affection and love strong as the years of a wedded union go by. John M. Gottman draws from years of experience as one of the United States` pre-eminent relationship experts to offer couples a guide they can work with on a practical, day-to-day basis. Taking the emoti...

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John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for ...

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John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for ...

JOHN M. GOTTMAN, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and cofounder and codirector of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute.

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Format:PaperbackDimensions:288 pages, 7.99 × 5.15 × 0.59 inPublished:March 15, 2000Publisher:Potter/TenSpeed/HarmonyLanguage:English

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from If you are in a relationship this is a good book to read I liked the 7 principles and the psychological aspect of this book as it is my field of study. You should definitely read this book if you are in a relationship it helps to understand the best ways to communicate with your spouse.
Date published: 2011-07-21
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Highly recommend it It is so practical and so easy to read that I'm buying it for all my children and recommending it to all my friends. The insights in this little book can help any relationship that's having trouble. If you're searching for help for your relationship, give this book a try today.
Date published: 2010-06-03
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Read it! This book is based on how real couples, both the successful and the unsuccessful, interact with each other-- Not simply on some psychologists' theorizing. Gottman makes excellent suggestions, gives hope and provides encouragement to those who are struggling or those who just want to be a better partner. Whether you are having difficulties or not, read the book; you will receive valuable insight into your manner of communication with your partner that will influence the way you interact for the better.
Date published: 2006-06-15
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Makes you see what you are BOTH doing right/wrong I've never read a better book about relationships and improvement. It really shows you the areas where you're *BOTH* going right/wrong, need improvement,... It's amazing how much respect you stop having for one another, and this book shows you how to change bad habits and acquire good ones.
Date published: 2005-05-12
Rated 5 out of 5 by from The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work This is an excellent book, written by the leading expert in the field of marriage and relationships. This book helped us decide to study with Dr. Gottman. We use this book on a regular basis in our practice. It is easy to read and is based on science. It is NOT an it looks good, it sounds good, ... I hope it works kind of book. Many years of research hold this book up as one of the best available. Don't just read it ... put it into practise. Don't just get married ... stay married!
Date published: 2005-01-13
Rated 5 out of 5 by from All Star I bought this book a while back and just got around to reading it on a business trip. Outstanding. It really helped me to see marriage in a much better light. Thinking about all my friends who have divorced, what this book says is true. Recommended: The Romantics Guide by Michael Webb. Gave it to my son and it saved his marriage.
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Chapter 1Inside the Seattle Love Lab: The Truth about Happy Marriages It's a surprisingly cloudless Seattle morning as newlyweds Mark and Janice Gordon sit down to breakfast. Outside the apartment's picture window, the waters of Montlake cut a deep-blue swath, while runners jog and geese waddle along the lakeside park. Mark and Janice are enjoying the view as they munch on their French toast and share the Sunday paper. Later Mark will probably switch on the football game while Janice chats over the phone with her mom in St. Louis.        All seems ordinary enough inside this studio apartment--until you notice the three video cameras bolted to the wall, the microphones clipped talk-show style to Mark's and Janice's collars, and the Holter monitors strapped around their chests. Mark and Janice's lovely studio with a view is really not their apartment at all. It's a laboratory at the University of Washington in Seattle, where for sixteen years I have spearheaded the most extensive and innovative research ever into marriage and divorce.        As part of one of these studies, Mark and Janice (as well as forty-nine other randomly selected couples) volunteered to stay overnight in our fabricated apartment, affectionately known as the Love Lab. Their instructions were to act as naturally as possible, despite my team of scientists observing them from behind the one-way kitchen mirror, the cameras recording their every word and facial expression, and the sensors tracking bodily signs of stress or relaxation, such as how quickly their hearts pound. (To preserve basic privacy, the couples were monitored only from nine a.m. to nine p.m. and never while in the bathroom.) The apartment comes equipped with a fold-out sofa, a working kitchen, a phone, TV, VCR, and CD player. Couples were told to bring their groceries, their newspapers, their laptops, needlepoint, hand weights, even their pets--whatever they would need to experience a typical weekend.        My goal has been nothing more ambitious than to uncover the truth about marriage--to finally answer the questions that have puzzled people for so long: Why is marriage so tough at times? Why do some lifelong relationships click, while others just tick away like a time bomb? And how can you prevent a marriage from going bad--or rescue one that already has?Predicting Divorce with 91 Percent AccuracyAfter years of research I can finally answer these questions. In fact, I am now able to predict whether a couple will stay happily together or lose their way. I can make this prediction after listening to the couple interact in our Love Lab for as little as five minutes! My accuracy rate in these predictions averages 91 percent over three separate studies. In other words, in 91 percent of the cases where I have predicted that a couple's marriage would eventually fail or succeed, time has proven me right. These predictions are not based on my intuition or preconceived notions of what marriage "should" be, but on the data I've accumulated over years of study.        At first you might be tempted to shrug off my research results as just another in a long line of newfangled theories. It's certainly easy to be cynical when someone tells you they've figured out what really makes marriages last and can show you how to rescue or divorce-proof your own. Plenty of people consider themselves to be experts on marriage--and are more than happy to give you their opinion of how to form a more perfect union.        But that's the key word--opinion. Before the breakthroughs my research provided, point of view was pretty much all that anyone trying to help couples had to go on. And that includes just about every qualified, talented, and well-trained marriage counselor out there. Usually a responsible therapist's approach to helping couples is based on his or her professional training and experience, intuition, family history, perhaps even religious conviction. But the one thing it's not based on is hard scientific evidence. Because until now there really hasn't been any rigorous scientific data about why some marriages succeed and others flop.        For all of the attention my ability to predict divorce has earned me, the most rewarding findings to come out of my studies are the Seven Principles that will prevent a marriage from breaking up.Emotionally Intelligent MarriagesWhat can make a marriage work is surprisingly simple. Happily married couples aren't smarter, richer, or more psychologically astute than others. But in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which all couples have) from overwhelming their positive ones. They have what I call an emotionally intelligent marriage.I can predict whether a couple will divorce after watching and listening to them for just five minutes.Recently, emotional intelligence has become widely recognized as an important predictor of a child's success later in life. The more in touch with emotions and the better able a child is to understand and get along with others, the sunnier that child's future, whatever his or her academic IQ. The same is true for relationships between spouses. The more emotionally intelligent a couple--the better able they are to understand, honor, and respect each other and their marriage--the more likely that they will indeed live happily ever after. Just as parents can teach their children emotional intelligence, this is also a skill that a couple can be taught. As simple as it sounds, it can keep husband and wife on the positive side of the divorce odds.Why Save Your Marriage?Speaking of those odds, the divorce statistics remain dire. The chance of a first marriage ending in divorce over a forty-year period is 67 percent. Half of all divorces will occur in the first seven years. Some studies find the divorce rate for second marriages is as much as 10 percent higher than for first-timers. The chance of getting divorced remains so high that it makes sense for all married couples--including those who are currently satisfied with their relationship--to put extra effort into their marriages to keep them strong.