The Sleepeasy Solution: The Exhausted Parent's Guide to Getting Your Child to Sleep from Birth to Age 5 by Jill SpivackThe Sleepeasy Solution: The Exhausted Parent's Guide to Getting Your Child to Sleep from Birth to Age 5 by Jill Spivack

The Sleepeasy Solution: The Exhausted Parent's Guide to Getting Your Child to Sleep from Birth to…

byJill Spivack, Jennifer Waldburger

Paperback | April 1, 2007

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Two experts who are helping Hollywood's A-list babies get their zzz's share the no-fail, family-friendly method that has helped thousands of sleep-deprived moms and dads.

Even Hollywood's biggest stars face the same dilemma as other parents do: "How do I get my child to sleep?" As parents in the know are finding, whether they're on the red carpet or the soccer field, the answer is the same: The Sleepeasy Solution.

Psychotherapists and sleep specialists Jennifer and Jill, the dynamic "girlfriends" all of Hollywood calls on to solve Junior's sleep problems, have perfected their sleep technique that will get any child snoozing in no time-most often in fewer than three nights. The key to their method? It addresses the emotional needs of both the parent and child (yes, how to handle the crying!)-a critical component of why most other sleep methods fail.

In this much-needed, family-friendly guide, weary parents will learn to define their own individual sleep goals, those that work for their family's schedule and style. They'll create a customized "sleep planner" to ensure consistency with both parents as well as extended caregivers. (As an added bonus, they'll even improve the readers' relationships with their spouses with the "marriage-saver" section.) With comprehensive sections devoted to each stage of Baby's and Toddler's development, plus solutions to special circumstances like traveling, daylight saving's time, moving to a "big kid bed" and multiples, The Sleepeasy Solution is a dream come true!

"This approach was truly amazing in helping our family to thrive. . . . We are eternally grateful!"
-Ben Stiller and wife, Christine Taylor, actors

"With their gentle approach, Sleepeasy gave us the tools we needed to solve our daughter's sleep problems."
-Conan O'Brien, host of NBC's Late Night with Conan O'Brien

"Sleepeasy gave us all the tools we needed to get our baby sleeping through the night. Now when we say good night to our daughter, we know it really will be a good night."
-Greg Kinnear, actor


Jill Spivack, LMSW, is a psychotherapist who worked as a pediatric sleep consultant who co-founded Sleepy Planet, Inc., in 1999. The two offer private sleep consultations for celebrity clients and others, standing-room only workshops and regular keynotes at Baby Expos with audiences of over 300. They have appeared on the CBS Evening Ne...
Title:The Sleepeasy Solution: The Exhausted Parent's Guide to Getting Your Child to Sleep from Birth to…Format:PaperbackDimensions:314 pages, 9 × 6.5 × 0.75 inPublished:April 1, 2007Publisher:Health Communications, Inc.Language:English

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from This is the one book I recommend This is the one book I recommend To all new parents. Truly a lifesaver, let alone establishes the critical idea of sleep as a life necessity as opposed to a luxury or weakness. So often I hear about older kids and adults who have trouble with falling and staying sleep. Learning this critical skill is the best gift you can give anyone. Our two girls cried for 10 min and one hour each. Then never again at nap or bedtime. This was after endless days and night fussing (we weren't 'letting them cry' but ironic how they were crying, in our arms, from the desperate need to sleep!).
Date published: 2016-02-29
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Best Sleep Book Ever! After reading many other books, this one was recommended to me by a sleep psychologist. I love that there is a workbook and a step by step guide rather than just theory. My son starting sleeping though the night after three days and now sleep 11 hours at night and 3-4 hours during the day.
Date published: 2011-10-13
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Amazing I bought this book out of desperation. By 7 months my son was sleeping in stretches of 20 mins only... if we got 1 hr without him waking up, we were happy. I followed this book to the letter and as advertised, my son quickly turned around and started sleeping. Today... he sleeps/naps well and I still refer to the book because developmental milestones affect sleep and you always have to tweak or adjust as he grows. He's 18mths now.
Date published: 2010-10-06
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Miraculous! I cannot say enough about this absolutely fantastic book. After only two nights our 5 month old son went down without crying at all. I'm only in the beginning stages but so far so good! The way this book is written is very reader-friendly and you really feel as though the authors truly understand how exhausted parents feel. I love how there are tips for when you are travelling or for time changes, and that they cover from 4 months to age 5. This is a must have for any parent. Buy it for everyone you know.
Date published: 2009-08-23
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Hallelujah it Works!!! For eight months we have been challenged by our new daughter's sleep patterns, or lack there of. We had decided to be 'no cry' parents and looked at resources provided by Dr Sears and the Baby Whisperer. We found Dr Sears too vague (with respect to sleep, other resources are very valuable)and the Baby Whisperer just made us feel like we had completely failed as parents. The Sleepeasy Solution provided some quite prescriptive advice, pointed out some of the things we might have been doing wrong WITHOUT the denegrating tone of the Baby Whisperer. After one slightly difficult night of a few crying spells, we saw immediate improvements in our daughter's sleep. She still stirs from time to time in the night, but knows how to get herself back to sleep and I am finally remembering what it is like to sleep for most of 8 hours.
Date published: 2009-02-25
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Very helpful! I loved this book. After reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child I was frustrated and confused about how to get my child to sleep without tons of crying. I went in search of a new book and found the Sleepeasy Solution. It is VERY well written, organized nicely and is easy to understand. The authors understand how hard it is to listen to your child cry and their "least cry solution" really works. My daughter cried for an hour the first night but then after that it was only a few minutes or not at all. By checking in on her as the book suggests, I felt better and I believe she did too. The book covers all ages from 0-5years and even covers special situations like daylight savings. It also has a Q&A section that covered a lot of questions I had. I would highly recommend this book for those who have tried other books that didn't work. You will be glad you did!
Date published: 2008-04-14
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A life saver! We used this book to help our 5 month old learn to fall asleep. As with all methods the first few nights were bumpy, but as the book says we had results within the first 5 days. Our daughter is now almost 8 months old and can fall asleep on her own without much fuss, even through teething! I've also found this book a great resource for milestones and how to deal with them in relation to sleep. As well the authors were very helpful and responded to emails within hours of writing them for suggestions. I totally recommend this method if you are looking for help!
Date published: 2008-03-11
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A Must for Your Parenting Library Absolutely one of the best books I've read on helping your child to sleep! Not only was this book informative well organized and easy to read, it brought home my own personal struggle with my third born child twenty years ago. Finally I understand how we were contributing to the problem! I wish I had had this available to me then. I give it a resound thumbs up! A “must read” for any parent struggling with getting their child to sleep.
Date published: 2008-02-21
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A True Lifesaver!! I purchased a copy of this book after 6 months of waking up every 1-2 hours with my baby. After implementing the sleepeasy solution my baby was sleeping through the night after only 5 days. I was extremely impressed and would highly recommend this book to anyone in a similar situation.
Date published: 2007-11-12

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Excerpts from The Sleepeasy SolutionNo-Cry Versus Crying It Out Most parents wanting to make changes with their child's sleep have heard all the debates about allowing a child to cry. This has led to a lot of confusion. Some of the methods that promise "no-cry" solutions suggest to parents that their child wonÆt ever cry. The idea is that being ôgentler and more responsiveöùcontinuing to soothe your child by patting, picking her up, holding her hand, and the likeùmeans that she is less traumatized. Ironically, though, parents often report that the child still cries even while they continue to attend to her; all children protest change, and the way they let us know they don't like the change is to cry. As important as it is for parents to express love to children through physical touch, and as illogical as it may seem that doing so while helping a child learn to sleep is counterproductive, it is indeed the parent's touch that can exacerbate a child's frustration in this scenario. The result? The child often continues to struggle with sleep, usually for weeks or even months, because she is not being allowed to learn how to soothe herself. With older children, using touch can be especially detrimental, as it tempts them to continue testing limits with you, to keep pressing until you cave in and help them to sleep. WeÆve found that when using these kinds of "hands-on" methods, parents often give up on sleep learning because it takes so long to actually get better sleep that the process itself becomes exhausting.On the other end of the spectrum are the experts who suggest that the fastest way to help a child to sleep is to allow him to "cry it out" in other words, shutting the door and leaving your child completely alone, crying, for as long as it takes him to fall asleep. Also known as full extinction, this method actually does work, and sometimes quite quickly, although we have heard stories of children who have cried for as long as several hours at a stretch on the first night or two, perhaps bewildered and frightened because the usual helpers (namely, you) have disappeared. The idea of a child alone in the dark, crying inconsolably, doesnÆt sit right with most parents, and it doesn't sit right with us, either. It seems unnecessarily hard on both parents and child.We think experts on both ends of the spectrum are well intentioned, but we also believe that the so-called no-cry solutions focus too much on the parent's and child's emotions and not enough on the necessary conditions for learning, and that the extinction methods focus too much on the child's learning and not enough on the emotional side of sleep learning. This is how we arrived at what we call the "least-cry" approach.The "Least-Cry" ApproachSo if giving your child too much help makes her cry harder and longer, and giving her too little help makes parents (and possibly the child) feel uneasy and overwhelmed, what's left? Finding a balance between allowing your child to learn how to sleep, while lovingly supporting her in the process. Our recipe for successful sleep learning --meaning that children learn to sleep quickly with a minimum of crying--contains two important ingredients:1. A simple, customized sleep plan that includes step-by-step instructions for scheduling, environmental changes, and helping children change their sleep behavior, and2. Plenty of support around the emotional aspects of teaching a child to sleep (and some inevitable frustration), to help children continue to feel loved, and to help parents remain consistent as their child learns. Parents who use our methods usually report that their child begins to sleep through the night in less than five nights, because the child receives clear, consistent responses that shape behavior quickly, and because she feels your loving encouragement while she learns. In a matter of days, children learn that they don't need assistance from their parentsùwith a bit of practice they become expert sleepers, and the whole family finally begins to get the rest they need.Although there are other methods designed to offer parents a "middle-of-the-road" option, we haven't found any that help a child learn as quickly and minimize the crying as effectively as the techniques we use. We believe this is because we offer an equal balance of opportunities for behavioral learning and loving support that doesn't interfere with that learning. In this book, our aim is to give you exactly what a family would get if they were sitting in our office: our expertise, proper tools, and all the emotional support you need.We'll help you create an organized, fail-proof plan that ensures success--usually in less than five nights. At Sleepy Planet, we've met thousands of parents who are in exactly the same exhausted, barely functioning boat that you're in right now. Happily, your child's (and thus you and your spouse's) sleepless nights will soon feel like a quickly fading bad dream. So hang in there; help has finally arrived! (That would be us, and we're not leaving your side till your child's sleep is much improved. Promise.)There are seven main "sleep stealers" or reasons your child isn't sleeping well; she may be affected by one of them, by a combination of several, or if you've hit the jackpot, by all seven.SLEEP STEALER #1: No Consistent Bedtime Routine Though most parents know that a bedtime routine is a good idea, it can be hard to be consistent about doing it, either because there's too much to do before bed or because your child has so much energy that it's hard to slow her down. Nonetheless, a predictable wind-down routine is one of the most important tools your child needs to sleep well. There are several important components of a good bedtime routine: Physical activity should come before the routine. If Daddy likes to toss the baby in the air, or your toddler likes to streak naked through the living room, go for it! Just make sure you do these activities before the bath or bedtime routine, when you'll want to start slowing things down. The routine should last 15 to 60 minutes at nighttime, and about 10 to 15 minutes before a nap. The length of your routine will depend partly on the age of your child; a 5-month-old might gum a few pages of a board book, whereas an 18-month-old will enjoy at least one full story. Do your bedtime routine in the same room where your child will be sleeping. It's important that your child spend some time in this space with you, feeling comfortable and relaxed, so the transition into sleep will go smoothly. If you give your child a bath and help him change into PJs in his room, and then return to another part of the house with him for more play or activity, you'll lose the momentum of the wind-down process and will likely find that your child gets a "second wind."Do approximately the same activities each night or at nap time, in the same order. This is what will help your child develop sleep cues, so that over time just doing the routine makes your child sleepy. Wind-down activities can include: A bathA massageDimming the lightsPlaying soft musicDiaper change and putting on pjÆsNursing, a bottle, or a cup of milkA book or song (or several of each)Playing quietly on the floor (no toys that beep or blink)With an older child, talking about your day togetherYou get the idea. Have fun and be creative; just remember to keep it low-key. Once you've established a consistent routine, anyoneùsitter, grandparents, other familyùshould be able to do exactly what you do to put your child to sleep and have exactly the same results. Mom and Dad are then freed up for a night on the town.Imagine that!©2007. Jennifer Waldburger, LCSW, and Jill Spivak, LMSW. All rights reserved. Reprinted from The Sleepeasy Solution: The Exhausted Parent's Guide to Getting Your Child to Sleep from Birth to Age 5. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, without the written permission of the publisher. Publisher: Health Communications, Inc., 3201 SW 15th Street , Deerfield Beach , FL 33442.

Editorial Reviews

"With their gentle approach, Sleepeasy gave us the tools we needed to solve our daughter's sleep problems."