The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World

by Alan Downs

Da Capo Press | June 5, 2012 | Trade Paperback

The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World is rated 4.75 out of 5 by 4.
Today’s gay man enjoys unprecedented, hard-won social acceptance. Despite this victory, however, serious problems still exist. Substance abuse, depression, suicide, and sex addiction among gay men are at an all-time high, causing many to ask, “Are we really better off?” Drawing on contemporary research, psychologist Alan Downs’s own struggle with shame and anger, and stories from his patients, The Velvet Rage passionately describes the stages of a gay man’s journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior. Updated to reflect the effects of the many recent social, cultural, and political changes, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men.
 

Format: Trade Paperback

Dimensions: 272 pages, 8.25 × 5.5 × 0.68 in

Published: June 5, 2012

Publisher: Da Capo Press

Language: English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10: 0738215678

ISBN - 13: 9780738215679

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from Velvet Rage An excellent description of what it is like growing up a gay man. A realization that my experience is shared with most other gay men.
Date published: 2014-09-24
Rated 5 out of 5 by from The Velvet Rage This book was recommended to me by my psychologist. I was sceptical of it's relevance even as I read it until I had to put it down because I found it discomforting. I went back to it, read it over a couple of days and it resulted in something of an "Aha" moment on Sunday morning. I suspect there will be many more and that it may have a profound impact on my way of living.
Date published: 2013-10-01
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Provided valuable insights This book is easy to read, yet close to my heart.. Provided useful insights. Will reread it occasionally to remind myself.
Date published: 2012-12-29
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Provided valuable insights This book is easy to read, yet close to my heart.. Provided useful insights. Will reread it occasionally to remind myself.
Date published: 2012-12-29

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The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World

The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World

by Alan Downs

Format: Trade Paperback

Dimensions: 272 pages, 8.25 × 5.5 × 0.68 in

Published: June 5, 2012

Publisher: Da Capo Press

Language: English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10: 0738215678

ISBN - 13: 9780738215679

From the Publisher

Today’s gay man enjoys unprecedented, hard-won social acceptance. Despite this victory, however, serious problems still exist. Substance abuse, depression, suicide, and sex addiction among gay men are at an all-time high, causing many to ask, “Are we really better off?” Drawing on contemporary research, psychologist Alan Downs’s own struggle with shame and anger, and stories from his patients, The Velvet Rage passionately describes the stages of a gay man’s journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior. Updated to reflect the effects of the many recent social, cultural, and political changes, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men.
 

About the Author

Alan Downs, PhD, is a clinical psychologist practicing in Beverly Hills, California. The former CEO of Michael’s House Treatment Center, Downs now maintains a thriving private psychotherapy practice and an intensive outpatient addiction program.
 

Editorial Reviews

Philadelphia Gay News bestseller, 5/11/12

“A groundbreaking examination of the psychology of homosexuality, why it leads to shame over one’s identity and how to overcome it. This book has remarkable staying power.”



Artvoice, 11/26/15
“The clearest, most succinct delineation of the origins and consequences of internalized homophobia, and how to address them.”