This Is How We Roll: A Coach's Guide To Transforming Conflict Into High Performance by Nadia KybaThis Is How We Roll: A Coach's Guide To Transforming Conflict Into High Performance by Nadia Kyba

This Is How We Roll: A Coach's Guide To Transforming Conflict Into High Performance

byNadia Kyba

Paperback | November 12, 2019

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Conflict for the win!

Who knew the way to the championship was moving through conflict? It’s what most dread, and it’s the only way for teams to make it, to grow together, to become stronger—and to win.

Bring out your inner social worker.

In This Is How We Roll, athlete, coach and social worker, Nadia Kyba, brings you easy-to-understand social work concepts and tools that you can apply now to transform conflict on your team to growth and performance. Full of stories and examples, this is your guide to the often difficult conversations required for true, lasting conflict resolution.

Your team brand speaks for you.

This Is How We Roll is a light, fun journey through the process of creating a unique team brand that will set your team apart in every practice, game and tournament. Both on and off the court, ice or field, witness your team transform through the conflict resolution method of champions.

Nadia Kyba is a lifelong athlete with a deep love of sport. She believes a single positive experience in organized sport can be life changing for the young, the old and the in- between. Working in the field of alternate dispute resolution in the child welfare system for 22 years, Nadia has developed tried-and-tested techniques and uniq...
Title:This Is How We Roll: A Coach's Guide To Transforming Conflict Into High PerformanceFormat:PaperbackProduct dimensions:260 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.55 inShipping dimensions:9 × 6 × 0.55 inPublished:November 12, 2019Publisher:Now What FacilitationLanguage:English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10:1999250907

ISBN - 13:9781999250904


Table of Contents



Chapter 1 Conflict Is Not Only Inevitable; It’s Necessary
The B Word
How Is Conflict a Good Thing?
Conflict and the Stages of Team Development

Chapter 2 Understanding Perception
How We Make Assumptions
The Circle of Inference
Common Decision-Making Traps—And How to Avoid Them
How Do Values Fit?
How to Work Through the Circle

Chapter 3 How—And Why—To Create an All-Win
Positions and Interests
Moving Beyond Positions
The Five Steps to Conflict Resolution
All-Wins in Action


Chapter 4 Catching Conflict Early
The Red Flags: How Does Conflict Start?
   Non-verbal Communication
   Verbal Communication...In the Age of the Kk!
It’s All in the Mush: How Conflict Escalates
Practice Your Detective Skills
   Conflict > Conversion > Cohesion
   Conflict Styles Matter
Be Transparent

Chapter 5 Peer Leadership
How Do You Spot a Leader?
Why Is Peer Leadership So Important?
   Peer Mentorship
Developing Leadership
How Can You Cultivate Peer Leaders?
Define Team Roles

Chapter 6 Team Planning Meetings
How to Use Your First Meetings
A Forum for Mitigating and Resolving Conflict
How to Set Up and Run TPMs
   Room Setup
   Introduction of the Facilitator and Icebreaker
   Group Guidelines
   Document the Plan Summary
   Facilitation Tips
Pitfalls to Avoid

Chapter 7 Team Goals and Values
Shared Goals
Team Values

Chapter 8 Tricky Conversations: Conflict Conversion 1-1
Practicing Empathy
Six Essential Questions Before You Email (or Text or DM or Tweet)
How to Set the Stage for a Face-to-Face
Tricky Conversation Starter Script
During the Conversation


Chapter 9 Your Team’s Brand
Brand Appeal
Brand Blueprint
Transition Plan
Additional Brand Considerations
   Fortify Communication

Chapter 10 In the Game
Brands in Action
   Individuals Together: Candice Drouin
   Team...Team...Team: AJ Sander
   Beyond the White Lines: Joni Frei

Final Thoughts
About the Author

Editorial Reviews

"This is one of the most important and practical books for coaches out there today. You will, without a doubt, be more equipped to lead today's generation after reading this book. It's jumped near the top of my must-read books for coaches!"—JP Nerbun, Author of Calling Up, Thrive on Challenge Sports Podcast, Sports Consultant “Nadia shares her wealth of knowledge thoughtfully through compassion and dexterity. An inherently readable book filled with both relatable and entirely practicable advice.”—Emilia Obedko, Head Coach, Richmond Kigoos Swim Club “Every coach and trainer needs a copy of this book! Nadia does a great job of giving readers a step-by-step guide for conflict solutions that can be used at the amateur to professional level in sport. This book is a must-read for all coaches and skills trainers!”—Harp Grewal, Professional Skills Trainer, Founder of 3Seed Training “I have had the opportunity to work with Nadia and see firsthand the positive impact she is able to make with teams through her approach in conflict resolution. With a true passion for helping sports teams, Nadia provides the tools and insights in her book that every coach needs. This book is a must-read for all coaches, volunteers, and sports associations—with all the tools you need to address conflict and turn it into high performance.”—Shirlyn Baskette, President, Richmond Ravens Female Hockey Association “As a sport volunteer, I found my experience reflected in story after story in is This Is How We Roll. With the wisdom Nadia shares, it’s like having her stand with us as a guide through the difficult situations we face, and I couldn’t be more grateful!”—RaeAnne Rose, President, Synchronized Swimming BC