Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One) by Deborah MacNamara PhDRest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One) by Deborah MacNamara PhD

Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One)

byDeborah MacNamara PhDForeword byGordon Neufeld PhD

Paperback | March 23, 2016

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Foreword by Gordon Neufeld, PhD

Based on the work of one of the world’s foremost child development experts, Rest, Play, Grow offers a road map to making sense of young children, and is what every toddler, preschooler, and kindergartner wishes we understood about them.

Baffling and beloved, with the capacity to go from joy to frustration in seconds, young children are some of the most misunderstood people on the planet. Parents and caregivers struggle with these little ones, who are known for their extreme behaviour, from tantrums, resistance, and aggression to separation anxiety, bedtime protests, and not listening. The key to understanding youngsters lies in realizing that their challenging behaviour is not personal, nor is it a disorder or deficit.

Based on science and the relational developmental approach of renowned psychologist and bestselling author Gordon Neufeld, Rest, Play, Grow reveals how critical adults are in shaping the conditions to ensure young children flourish. This is the story of how young children develop, from their intense need for attachment and the vital importance of play to discipline that preserves growth. Engagingly written, with compassion for its subjects and rich with stories from them and their parents, Rest, Play, Grow will forever change the way you think of the preschoolers in your life.

Dr. Deborah MacNamara is a clinical counsellor and educator with more than twenty-five years experience working with children, youth, and adults. She is on faculty at the Neufeld Institute, operates a counselling practice, and speaks regularly about child and adolescent development to parents, childcare providers, educators, and mental health professionals. She continues to write, do radio and television interviews, and speak to the needs of children and youth based on developmental science. Deborah resides in Vancouver, Canada, with her husband and two children.

Praise for Rest, Play, Grow

 “Rest, Play, Grow notes the preeminence of early parent-child attachment in optimal development, and it passionately affirms the primary value of play to children’s well-being and creativity.
—Raffi Cavoukian, singer, author

“This book is developmental science translated into practical love.”
—Gabor Maté, MD, co-author of Hold On to Your Kids

“This is a must-read for every parent of a preschooler or younger. Read this and you will truly be your ‘kid’s best bet.’”
—Kristy Pillinger, editor-in-chief of Nurture Parenting Magazine

“Deborah has translated the beautifully chaotic world of being a preschooler. If there is only one book you should read as a parent, this is the one.”
—Traci Costa, CEO of Peekaboo Beans

“This is not a quick-fix script but, instead, presents a road map to better understand this amazing age in all its glorious imperfections.”
—Keyvan Hadad, MD, pediatrician

Rest, Play, Grow is a refreshing reminder of the importance of slowing down and allowing children to mature at their own pace, unhindered by societal expectations.”
—Lori Petro, TEACH through Love

“Dr. MacNamara truly has the gift of writing, always grounding concepts in very relatable moments from her life and work as a researcher, professor, counsellor, and, of course, parent.”
—Genevieve Simperingham, Peaceful Parent Institute

“Finally, a book for parents of young children that weds neuroscience and attachment research and is consummately useful!”
—Sil Reynolds, co-author of Mothering and Daughtering

Dr. Deborah MacNamara is a clinical counsellor and educator with more than twenty-five years experience working with children, youth, and adults. She is on faculty at the Neufeld Institute, operates a counselling practice, and speaks regularly about child and adolescent development to parents, childcare providers, educators, and mental...
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Title:Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One)Format:PaperbackDimensions:306 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.69 inPublished:March 23, 2016Publisher:Aona Management IncLanguage:English

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Rated 4 out of 5 by from Inspiring A terrific read for all parents and care givers.
Date published: 2017-10-02
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Awesome book!!!!! I bought this book a couple weeks ago, and finished it quickly. It was easy to read and I loved how there was graphs in it. It give me a better understanding of Neufeld's developmental/relational approach. I would love to buy a box full and give it to parents in my area.
Date published: 2016-05-23
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A MUST read for parents and educators alike! I had the great pleasure of listening to this author speak last year at one of my Professional Development days. Her content was empowering, insightful and humorous as she shared real life stories of her own parenting with her daughters. My colleagues and I were left inspired and appreciated her clear and thoughtful message navigating challenges with young children. Needless to say, I was thrilled when I saw she had written a book! Once I began to read this book I could not put it down! Just as I had imagined, Dr. MacNamara's writing style was delivered with a beautiful balance of the science behind child development and heart. Her account of personal stories from parents were delivered with compassion and kindness which resounds with me deeply being an educator for the past 2 decades and trying to be my students "Best Bet". Dr. MacNamara uses language that is easy to understand with a view of understanding the world through a child's eye. Hands down, "Rest, Play, Grow" is one of the best top 3 child development books I have ever read, and I have a library of them! I am looking forward to more work from Dr. MacNamara in the future.
Date published: 2016-05-02
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Each chapter inspired me to a better parent What a breath of fresh air! In Rest Play Grow, Dr. MacNamara's expertise in child development is matched by her joy of -- and compassion for -- "baffling and beloved" preschoolers. In the first part of the book, Dr. MacNamara draws upon current research in neuroscience to explain the "preschooler personality". This science-based understanding sets the stage for the rest of the book where she looks at common challenges in parenting young children (e.g., bedtimes, tantrums, resistance). As a developmentalist, Dr. MacNamara explores what the child needs from adults to grow to their full potential and sees 'troubling behaviours' more as signposts to help a parent determine what the child is missing for their growth. As a mom reading this book, I was surprised that after each chapter I saw my own child differently. I had more compassion: I was able to make more room for his upset and I was more able to identify what he needed from me in the moment. Dr. MacNamara doesn't give a single piece of "advice" (unlike so many parenting books that make me feel like I have to follow the author's instructions!), but instead she gently offers the reader another way to see children through stories she has collected as a clinical counsellor and educator and as a parent over the years. I would recommend this book to anyone who is responsible for a preschooler - whether they are a parent, grandparent, teacher, or helping professional. It is so lovely to have Dr. MacNamara's gentle words encouraging us to be in relationship with our children so that they may rest, play and grow.
Date published: 2016-05-02

Table of Contents

Foreword by Dr. Gordon Neufeld Introduction: Why Making Sense Matters Chapter 1: How Adults Grow Young Children UpChapter 2: The Preschooler Personality: Part Beauty, Part BeastChapter 3: Preserving Childhood: Defending Play in a Digital WorldChapter 4: Hungry for Connection: Why Relationships MatterChapter 5: Who's in Charge? The Dance of AttachmentChapter 6: Feelings and Hurts: Keeping Children's Hearts SoftChapter 7: Tears and Tantrums: Understanding Frustration and AggressionChapter 8: Alarmed by Disconnection: Bedtime, Separations, and AnxietyChapter 9: "You're Not the Boss of Me": Understanding Resistance and OppositionChapter 10: Discipline for the Immature: Buying Time for the Child to Grow UpChapter 11: How Young Children Grow Adults UpAbout the Neufeld InstituteAbout the AuthorAcknowledgementsNotes

Editorial Reviews

"This book is a tribute to not only Dr. MacNamara's giftedness but also to her absolute driving conviction that the insights regarding relationship and development must get out to those who are responsible for raising our youngsters . . . Dr. MacNamara is wonderfully positioned to tell you this story, taking you from theory to practice. You could not be in better hands." -Gordon Neufeld, PhD, bestselling author and founder of the Neufeld Institute